My mother was a math teacher who was working in 1970 at a private business school. She had two adult classes, one in “Remedial Arithmetic” and the other in “Business Arithmetic”. In July of that year, her sister in Milwaukee, my aunt, was in the final stages of terminal ovarian cancer and my Mom went to Milwaukee to be with her. I was astounded that Mom went there by air as she’d had a lifelong fear of flying, but she went.
Mom arranged with the school to have me temporarily replace her in those two classes. There were two one-hour class sessions each day and let me stress that those two hours were the most exhausting two hour stretches of my entire life even to this date.
Most of the students had some issue or another that had held them back academically.
One woman from Panama was sixty years of age but looked like she might have been thirty. I found out later that she had extremely severe heart disease. Her attention in class was totally focused and her every homework assignment was done to perfection. If she had any question, she would ask and was then adept at understanding absolutely everything!! A few years later, she was on the phone with my Mom when I happened to be there and she told Mom that she was going to go for heart treatment at the Mayo Clinic in “Rochester” but didn’t know how she was going to travel. I volunteered to drive her there thinking that it was Rochester, NY. When I found out it was Rochester, MN, we all realized that driving was out of the question. I never heard anything further afterwards.
There was one young man whom Mom told me had epilepsy. I had to be ready to deal with a possible seizure although that never happened. She told me that he would sit in class without looking up, only looking down, he would not speak and he would look like he wasn’t paying attention, but I was not to be fooled. He would hear every word, he would learn every concept and he would turn in perfect homework assignments which is exactly what happened.
There was one young woman who wore eyeglasses with extremely thick glass lenses. I once had to wear thick glass lenses for being nearsighted (I have plastic lenses now.) but this woman’s glasses made my own look like nothing. She had a question to ask before class one day and as she spoke, she was reading from a page that was held very, very close to her eyes. Suddenly her head turned abruptly from right to left and she then looked upward. She explained that she had a vision problem in which an image, such as on that paper, would suddenly flip to mirror image and her eyes would reflexively dart to where what she’d been looking at seemed to have gone which of course, it had not. She would then have to consciously stop until her vision flipped back again to normal. As one can imagine, class work for her was an intense struggle.
There was another young woman who suffered from extreme insecurity. One day she arrived in the classroom a second or two after a classroom bell rang to officially begin class time and she went into a panic attack. She launched into an energetic monologue of how terribly sorry she was for being late and that she would never be late again and how terrible she felt about being late and on and on and on. I had to calm her down with words of reassurance that everything was okay, that nothing was wrong and so forth. That alone took several minutes out of the class session time.
Another young woman was handing in homework pages with almost nothing on them. I might find a pencil mark or two but nothing more. I spoke with Mom by phone about that and she said I needed to have that woman redo the homework assignments from the very beginning. The following day, I asked that woman to stay in the room for a moment after class but she left and never came back. Never! Mom told me not to worry about it and just let the matter go. I did.
There was another woman of Russian descent whose name was “Mrs. Voloschevitz” but whose name I had trouble pronouncing. I wanted to get it right so I had her instruct me and after a few tries, I got it. She was delighted!! However, the school administration always mis-pronounced it as “Mrs. Wallasowitz” and one day when I had to refer to her by name in the front office, nobody knew who I was talking about. Ooops! I clarified the issue with everyone.
There was more too but you get the picture. I put in two weeks doing that until Mom returned to New York. I had used my two weeks of vacation time from my regular job to do that. That was a work-cation if ever there was one and oh boy, did I ever learn a lesson.
My mother was a math teacher, my wife was a fine arts teacher, my mother in law was an elementary school teacher and my father in law was a high school music teacher. Add to that one aunt in law and one cousin in law who were also teachers and a close family friend who was a high school principal. A pattern emerges. How they all managed to deal with the kinds of stresses they each endured in light of what I had happen in those two weeks of my own still leaves me in awe.